Four Things To Do For Raising A Happy Child
Do Let Your Kid Take the Lead

Do Offer (Selective) Praise
Pop quiz: Your kid scores a 95 on a math test. You respond with: (A) You're so smart! I'm super proud of you, or (B) I'm glad that you studied hard. Keep up the great work! For the sake of your child's self-esteem and happiness, experts agree that option B is the best response, since it's better to dole out praise for an action than for a result. Praising inherent traits, such as intelligence, can make kids self-conscious, which may lead to unwanted complexes. The worst-case scenario is when a child evolves into a perfectionist and eventually feels insecure and believes he is disappointing you if he doesn't get straight A's. These days, parents tend to over praise, so buck the trend by praising for concrete actions and effort. Dr. Carter notes that it's easier to comment on the end result, such as a high test score, but she recommends that you train yourself to praise "specific effort, because that's in a child's control."
Do Show Gratitude
"Gratitude and happiness are so strongly linked," Dr. Carter says. So practice gratitude with your munchkin on a daily basis, but appreciation lists shouldn't consist solely of toys and tablets. Teach your children to focus on being thankful for nonmaterial things, such as sleeping in a warm bed or taking an art class, to broaden their perspective. If your child can't rattle off a list, it doesn't mean he's not grateful -- he may simply need practice. "Kids aren't really taught to be grateful, but parents get upset when kids act entitled," Dr. Carter says. If your youngster isn't responsive, try a sneaky approach: At dinnertime or before bed, ask him to name three good things that happened that day.
Do Prioritize Your Own Friendships
Happy kids have friends, so help your child develop his friendships. You can start by not neglecting your own friends. If you're worried about being selfish with personal time, drop the guilt. Spending time with your pals actually sets a good example for your children, because maintaining friendships helps teach the value of social relationships. "We're much better parents when we are happy," Dr. Carter says. Plan outings with the girls, whether it's grabbing coffee or getting a manicure. If it's hard to sneak away for adult-only time, invite a friend to join you and your child at the park or museum. Or if your friends have kids, trade off on hosting playdates at home or at a playground or zoo. Encourage your child to make friends too, and schedule playdates so that he can enjoy unstructured playtime.
-Thanks to parents.com
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